Why Is Self-love Hard?
Why Is Self-love Hard?
Most of us, especially mothers, use so much of our energy and time to make sure that everyone in our lives like our family, and friends feel loved, and are well taken care of. What about loving ourselves? Why is self-love hard?
Self-love is hard because we do not prioritize it, are influenced to take actions, and form habits based on our limiting beliefs possibly formed from our childhood experiences habitual negative thoughts, and inner self-talk.
Our society also considers self-love and care to be selfish especially if you are a mother.
We also find it difficult to love ourselves because we have forgotten our true identity as a soul, where we have come from, whose image we are made in, and how powerful and loved we are by our creator.
Most of us are less forgiving and compassionate towards ourselves and therefore tend to keep punishing ourselves for the mistakes that we made in the past.
So, you may be wondering what are some revealing signs that you lack self-love. Let’s discuss that next.
10 Signs That You Lack Self-love
Most of us have a very hard time living our true lives and loving ourselves unconditionally. We must learn to do so because only then we can know and teach others how to love us. Here are 10 signs that reveal that you lack self-love.
Hide Your True Self
You feel like you do not matter, are not enough, worthy, and therefore you mask and hide your true self around others. You think if others know the true you they will not like you.
Always be proud of who you are and be your true self. You are an individual expression of your creator, a soul on a journey that’s here right now to fulfill a purpose. People who are meant to be in your life will love you the way you are.
Overanalyze Your Behavior
You are afraid of being you and acting the way you want to because you fear that you will be judged by others. You mimic, adapt, and try to do what everybody else around you is doing.
You do not need to blend in and do what feels uncomfortable or harm yourself by adopting bad addictive habits to fit in. Always be true to yourself and listen to your emotional and physical guidance.
You may inspire other people to be themselves too. Accept yourself and learn to be proud of who and how you are. The right people who are meant to be in your life will accept and love you just the way you are.
Have A Strong Fear Of Being Judged
The fear of being judged will lead you to always questioning and being less accepting of what you look like, and what you’re doing with your life in comparison to others.
Your life and purpose are between your soul and your creator. It is not anyone else’s business. Do not worry about others judging you because they may not understand your purpose. Stay steadfast on your path to fulfilling your purpose before it is too late.
Struggle With Mental And Physical Health
When you are in pain because you do not love and care about yourself you will be more likely to be drawn to addictions like others that are not good for you physically like excessive drinking, smoking, and overeating food that does not fuel your body and give it vitality.
Your soul is in your body at the moment so take care of it. You cannot fulfill your purpose if you are not physically healthy.
You will also be more likely to adopt the wrong identity, beliefs, and thoughts which will lead to painful feelings, negative self-talk and words that you say to yourself, wrong actions and habits which will then lead to undesired destiny, an unhappy life, and mental health issues.
Learn to be aware, catch, and stop adopting false identities, negative thoughts, and all the limiting beliefs that don’t serve you.
Feel Inferior To Others
There is no need to compare yourself to others, and feel inferior to them. Every soul is on a journey and is here to fulfill their purpose and calling.
No one is superior and everybody deserves the same respect despite their worldly titles, education, occupation, gender, color, and social status.
Hard On Yourself
You tend to be hard on yourself and don’t take the time to celebrate and appreciate your accomplishments. Always acknowledge and be proud of who you are, what you have done with your life, and how much you have grown.
Despite all the distractions if you are awakened and aspiring daily to live a more soul-aligned life take the time to celebrate and be proud of yourself.
Be kind, and compassionate towards yourself, and learn to forgive yourself because it is okay to learn from your mistakes and grow.
Lack Confidence
You lack confidence and self-belief and therefore believe that you do not deserve self-love. Always remember you are loved unconditionally by your creator and are here for a purpose or you would not be here.
You have been built and are in a perfect body and have been given all the wisdom you need within you to fulfill your purpose.
Be confident that you were built to serve your purpose and that you are capable. You are not limited and your life has infinite possibilities but you have to believe that. What you believe will always come true for you.
Need Validation
You constantly need validation, approval, permission, and affirmations from others about how you are living your life, and how you look.
Always remember everyone has lived a very different life and has had very different life experiences in comparison to you and therefore it will be impossible for them to approve and like everything about your life.
You don’t need other’s validation and approval to live your dream life. Don’t give other’s opinions power over you.
Have Difficult And Unstable Relationships
You will attract partners and have difficult and unstable relationships. You will feel like you are staying in an abusive relationship because you don’t love yourself and feel that you do not deserve any better.
Always remember you are loved unconditionally by your creator, you matter, are enough, and deserve the best. You should never allow yourself to be mistreated. You should be treated as an equal soul in any relationship.
Settle For Less
You tend to not dream big and settle for less because you fear that you do not believe in yourself and fear that you are not going to be successful.
Start taking steps toward your dream life. It is okay to try different things, make mistakes, and have failures because they will help you grow and teach you to be better, make you stronger, and help you grow so you can serve others in a bigger and better way.
Leap and start moving towards what you want. Have faith in one hand and fear in the other, start discovering what your purpose is and start working on that.
In conclusion, you now know that self-love is hard because we do not prioritize it, are influenced to take actions, and form habits based on our limiting beliefs possibly formed from our childhood experiences habitual negative thoughts, and inner self-talk.
Our society also considers self-love and care to be selfish especially if you are a mother.
We also find it difficult to love ourselves because we have forgotten our true identity as a soul, where we have come, whose image we are made in, and how powerful and loved we are by our creator.
Most of us are less forgiving and compassionate towards ourselves and therefore tend to keep punishing ourselves for the mistakes that we made in the past.
The 10 signs to watch for that signal you lack self-love are you hide your true self, overanalyze your behavior, fear being judged, struggle with physical and mental health, feel inferior to others, are hard on yourself, lack self-confidence, need validation, have difficult relationships and settle for less.
I hope you will start loving yourself and scheduling some time daily for your self-care immediately.
Next, read why self-love is not selfish for further helpful insights and tips.