Why Do Parents Never Say Sorry?
Why Do Parents Never Say Sorry?
Most Parents feel a lot of gratitude for the blessing, trust, and responsibility placed on them to be a parent. This role, however, is not easy and comes with a lot of challenges, and therefore no one is perfect at it.
It is very normal for people to possibly make mistakes in their parenthood journey. If that is the case then why do parents never say sorry?
A lot of parents do not like taking accountability for their wrong actions and saying sorry to their children because they have been led to believe and feel that they always know better since they are what they consider to be in a superior role to their children.
They feel apologizing takes away the authority and respect that they always deserve from their child. They were also most probably brought up by parents who abided by the same mentality and rules.
It is important to note that we are all equal souls that are in a human body temporarily despite our role while here on earth. We are all here to learn from each other or we would not be in each other’s lives.
There is a possibility that your child’s soul is older than yours and is here to teach you something and help you grow.
So, you may be wondering, what are some things that all parents need to be reminded to say to their children more regularly and comfortably? Let’s discuss that next.
8 Things Parents Need To Say To Their Child
What parents say to their children has such a big impact on them and it affects their self-esteem, confidence, image, and their adulthood. Here are eight things all parents need to be able to say to their children.
I Love You
“I love you” needs to be heard by your child every single day and especially when you are upset and disappointed by their actions and behavior.
Make sure to communicate and tell them that I am upset at the moment because of what you did however that does not mean I do not love you. Your child may feel that you do not love them anymore because they made a mistake and did something wrong.
Make sure they do not feel that they have to follow your agenda to be loved. Always remember that your child is a wise, powerful, peaceful, loving, pure, and divine equal soul that is here for a purpose.
They have been given unique gifts by their creator to fulfill their purpose. Love them regardless of whether they are following the path that you want them to follow or not.
I Believe In You
Tell your child I believe in you repeatedly. Help them identify, recognize and learn to honor their strengths. Celebrate each of your children individually and know that they all have the unique gifts that have been given to them for the fulfillment of their purpose.
Do not compare your child with others. Accept and acknowledge their uniqueness and whatever accomplishments they have regardless of whether other people and society value them or not.
I Am Proud Of You
Tell your child that you are proud of who they are and the effort that they put into doing something towards achieving their desired result.
For example, you could say I am proud of the effort that you put into studying and the marks that you got as a result. The actual grade should not dictate how proud you feel because they do not determine how smart your child is.
I Am Here For You
Make sure you tell your child I am here for you and make them feel loved, guided, and safe. Make them feel heard, seen, understood, and accepted by you. Spend lots of quality time with each of your child.
You Are Capable
Make your child aware of who they are which is a soul with a body, where they have come from, their inner power, and what they are capable of. Their life has infinite possibilities and they’re capable of doing anything that they want in this world that is alignment with their soul.
They have to believe in themselves because it doesn’t matter what somebody says about you that’s their opinion. Teach them to believe in themselves because of who they are which is a soul with a body created in your creator’s image.
I Am Sorry
Be a good role model to your child and take accountability for your wrong actions, and behavior and say I am sorry to your child when justified.
It will encourage your child to do the same when they make a mistake. It is okay for your child to know that parents sometimes make an error and project their anger onto them or have an overly exaggerated reaction.
I Am Listening
Make sure your child feels their point of view is always heard rather than feeling like they are always talked down to. Remember you are here to learn from them as much they are here to learn from you as an equal soul.
I Don’t Know
If your child asks you something that you do not know the answer to put your ego aside and feel free to tell them I don’t know the answer to your question however let’s do some research together and find the answer.
Your child must be aware that parents are not perfect and do not have all the answers so that they do not feel pressured to be perfect especially when they are parents themselves someday.
In conclusion, you now know that a lot of parents do not like taking accountability for their wrong actions and saying sorry to their children because they have been led to believe and feel that they always know better and are in a superior role to their children.
They feel apologizing takes away the authority and respect that they always deserve from their child. They were also most probably brought up by parents who abided by the same mentality and rules.
You also learned every parent needs to be able to say I love you, I believe in you, I am proud of you, I am here for you, you are capable, I am sorry, I am listening and I do not know.
I hope you will begin to say these eight things that you learned that every parent needs to be able to say to their child so that they can have a better adulthood, confidence, self-esteem, and image and help them raise their own confident kids someday and make this world a better place for all of us.
Next, read can childhood affect your adulthood for further helpful insights and tips.