Can Childhood Affect Your Adulthood?
Can Childhood Affect Your Adulthood?
Two adults while watching the same movie or looking at the same thing would be having a different inner dialogue and thoughts going on in their heads. They would use different thought processes to make decisions in their life. Why? Does it have anything to do with their childhood? Can your childhood affect who you become as an adult?
Yes, most definitely your childhood lessons and experiences, both good and bad do affect your adulthood. They shape and influence your personality, self-image and esteem, and affect your mental and physical health which then impacts and determines the quality of your life experiences and relationships.
How Does A Person’s Childhood Affect Adulthood?
Most of your beliefs and perceptions are formed by the age of seven based on what you hear, see, and experience as a child. At that age, you trust and are most influenced by the people around you.
These beliefs get filed and stored in your brain, become a part of your subconscious mind, and they dictate and influence every decision you make in life like a computer program without your consciousness knowledge.
Your perception, identity, and beliefs lead to habitual thoughts, feelings, words you speak, behaviour, actions, and habits you form which then leads to your results and destiny in life. You create your life and reality from your perception, identity, beliefs, and thoughts.
If you grew up in a supportive, loving, and caring environment, you will thrive, do well, and become a well-adjusted adult. If you were micromanaged by your parents, you may have lower self-esteem, confidence, and a lot of fear as an adult.
You might also have a tough time making decisions and will have high expectations and depend on other people in your life as an adult.
How To Unlearn Childhood Lessons
When we are first born, we are connected to our creator, know exactly why we are here, and what purpose we are here to fulfill. Then, we are guided and shaped by our loving best-intentioned parents, teachers, friends, community, and society and we are often misled and trained to conform to what others want us to do with our lives.
We agree to abide by their rules so that we can feel loved by them. We forget our purpose and power and we go down a path that’s not meant for us.
Let’s go over eight lessons that you can unlearn before it is too late because they are not serving you and are blocking you from fulfilling your purpose.
Do Not Show Emotions
Growing up, you probably heard people tell you to not cry or get angry as a child. There is nothing wrong with feeling and expressing your emotions. Emotions serve a purpose or they wouldn’t be coming up.
Emotions guide you to transform and be a better aligned higher version of yourself. If you are not feeling love, joy, compassion, and abundance then you know that you are not aligned with your soul’s qualities and are misaligned.
Spend some time in silence, sit with your feelings, and ask yourself why you are feeling that way. Know that it is okay to cry if you feel like it and release the stress hormones through your tears rather than bottling it up and letting it sit and turn into health issues in your body.
Most of the time it is your thoughts, identity, and beliefs that are leading you astray and making you not feel good. Be aware of these thoughts and begin replacing them with the ones that align with who you are and where you are going in life.
Bad Grades Mean Lower Intelligence
You may have heard you are not smart because you are not getting good grades in school. You may have a genius that is not recognized or valued in schools. There are many different areas where you can be a genius.
Grades do not reflect how intelligent you are. Giving your best effort should always be a priority and do not let it affect your self-image, esteem, and confidence. Trust that life happens for you and stay open to universal guidance.
You Can Get Everything You Want
You may have been told you can get everything you want. You cannot get everything you want without working for it. Things are not just going to fall into your lap without any action. You can get everything you want only if you have the right identity, beliefs, thoughts, feelings, actions, and habits.
You co-create your life with your creator who is always available to guide you. You also have to trust and be patient that sometimes the things that you want and are asking for are not good for you and the universe has bigger and better things planned for you.
You Have To Fit In
You were probably also told you should fit in, and be like others who have qualities that society values and do not stand out. You do not have to fit in and compare yourself to others who are on their path. Always be your authentic self. You are meant to fulfill your purpose by being whoever you are including all of your quirks.
Other’s people’s judgments about you should not matter. When you embrace your truth, you also may inspire someone else who is like you to do so. Connect to your creator regularly and ask for guidance so you can fulfill your purpose while here on this earth.
Failure Is The Worse Outcome
You probably heard failure is the worst outcome. Failure is not the worst outcome. It is simply feedback to learn from so you can pivot and course-correct towards the correct path which will lead you towards your purpose.
It is better to take action and fail in life than to live a mediocre, hopeless, and unhappy life. Take action so you can gain clarity and be guided to live a life of purpose and meaning.
It Is Unacceptable To Take A Break
You were told it is unacceptable to take a break it important to always keep busy. It is very important to take a break and spend some time in the quiet. You will be able to hear your soul’s whispers and guidance. If you always stay in the doing, noise, and distractions, you will only hear the screams of your ego.
The doing, resting, and listening to your guidance should be in flow for you to live your best life of purpose and meaning. Try to spend some of your quiet time out in nature.
You Should Be Punished For Small Mistakes
You were probably punished for small mistakes and accidents. Everyone will inevitably have accidents and make small mistakes. The goal is to learn from these mistakes and accidents and know how to mitigate or avoid them from happening repeatedly if they are in your control.
Your parents mean well and it is their role to keep you safe however do not live in the past, feel guilty, and have regrets about mistakes that you made in the past especially if they were not in your control. Work on growing and improving from mistakes and accidents that are in your control.
It Is Okay To Judge Others
You heard comments and were made to believe it is okay to feel superior and judge others. You should never feel superior over people who look different from you and make fun of them or mistreat them. We are all the same on the inside and have all come from the same creator. We are all souls that are having a temporary human experience.
Everyone is in the right body, colour, and gender, to fulfill their purpose here on earth. You matter and are enough because you are. Your creator has never told you that you’re not enough so you don’t have to believe that at all.
Stand up for and help people if you see someone discriminating against them. Teach your friends and family that it’s not okay to judge others as the pandemic has shown us how connected we are. No one was spared from the virus. This world would be much better if we all worked together rather than against each other because of how we look on the outside.
In conclusion, you now know that yes, your childhood lessons and experiences, both good and bad do affect your adulthood. They shape and influence your personality, self-image and esteem, and affect your mental and physical health which then impacts and determines the quality of your life experiences and relationships.
Most of your beliefs and perceptions are formed by the age of seven based on what you hear, see, and experience as a child. Your perception, identity and beliefs, lead to habitual thoughts, feelings, words you speak, your behaviour and actions and habits you form which then lead to your results and destiny in life.
If you grew up in a supportive, loving, and caring environment you will thrive, do well, and become a well-adjusted adult. If you were micromanaged by your parents, you may have lower self-esteem, confidence, and lots of fear as an adult, and will have a tough time making decisions, have high expectations, and depend on other people in your life as an adult.
You also learnt which lessons to unlearn because they are not serving you and blocking you from fulfilling your purpose are not showing emotions, thinking that bad grades reflect your intelligence, you can get anything, you have to fit in, failure is the worse outcome, it is unacceptable to take a break, you should be punished for small mistakes and accidents, and it is okay to judge others.
Questioning and examining your identity beliefs, and perceptions do not end here. It is a lifelong process that you should continue to do. Replace and adopt identity, beliefs, and perceptions that serve you and help you fulfill your purpose and live your very best meaningful and impactful life.
Next it would be helpful to read What Are Empowering Beliefs.