What To Do When You Feel Unhappy
What To Do When You Feel Unhappy
Nothing that happens to us in life is an accident. Whenever we have emotions and feelings that do not feel good it is a sign that there is something wrong.
So, If you are feeling unhappy then it is worth your time to look into and find out why you are feeling that way.
So, what should you do when you feel unhappy?
Start by asking and examining why it is that you are feeling that way. What beliefs, perspectives, and stories are you telling yourself about yourself, someone else, or about a situation?
Your beliefs create your reality.
What thoughts are you thinking? How are these thoughts making you feel? what words are you telling yourself? What behaviour are these thoughts and words leading to?
Change your beliefs, perspectives, stories, thoughts, words, feelings and actions to start affecting how you feel immediately.
List all the things you have to be grateful for. Reach out and serve someone and make them feel happy. Practice forgiveness and let go of any ill feelings towards yourself and others.
So, what are some reasons that we feel unhappy? Let’s discuss some common reasons that can make you feel unhappy.
Why Am I So Unhappy?
There are several different reasons that could make you feel unhappy. Let’s discuss some of them below and what to do to change unhappiness into happiness.
Don’t know self
You have forgotten how and where you have come from and how powerful you really are. You feel helpless and hopeless about your life.
Know that you are a powerful soul and have all the wisdom within you to create an amazing life for yourself. Your life has infinite possibilities.
Not living an Authentic life
You have been told what you can do and can’t do. You are unable to live your authentic life and be your true self because you have been led to believe that it is not good enough according to societal or cultural rules.
Honour who you are and always be true to yourself. Know what matters to you in life and what you stand for so that you can easily make decisions in life that are in alignment with your values.
Not Growing
You are not growing and learning lessons that the universe is trying to teach you from all the challenges you have gone through in life.
Grow every day and use your lessons learnt, knowledge acquired and discovered unique gifts to serve others in a bigger and better way and make their lives better.
No meaning and purpose
Your life lacks meaning and purpose. You do not feel worthy and enough.
Discover your purpose and soul’s calling and use your unique gifts to serve others and make their lives better.
Your life will have meaning when you serve others and create products and services that transform their lives.
Not made peace with your past actions
You constantly think of all the mistakes you made in the past and feel guilty. Guilt is a waste of mental energy.
The fact that you realize that you did something wrong in the past is proof that you have grown as a person so celebrate that.
Make peace with your past. Know that everything that you went through happened for a reason and it was there to teach you a lesson.
Show some compassion towards yourself and forgive yourself.
No life vision
You do not have a vision for your life. You are not aware of your dreams and desires.
Take some time possibly out in nature and write down what your life vision is for every area of your life like career/Business, Financial, Relationships, and Personal development etc.
No meaningful relationships
You are lonely and lack meaningful and positive relationships in your life.
Find communities of like-minded people who have values that are aligned with yours. You can lift and cheer each other up.
Human beings are social and it is very healthy and beneficial for us to have a supportive tribe around us.
Excessive Social Media usage
You are always on your phone checking and feeling disappointed about how many likes your pictures and posts have.
Looking at other people’s posts and amazing pictures results in you feeling bad about your life because you are comparing your life to theirs.
Addicted to video games and playing the majority of the hours in a day.
The most important “like” that matters the most is your own. Do not worry about other people’s opinions about you as long as you are not harming anyone else just be you and enjoy life.
Don’t compare yourself to others and rob your joy. You do not have a full picture of someone’s life and their challenges by looking at a few strategic good moments captured and posted on social media.
Remember you are only here on earth school for a short amount of time. Instead of wasting the majority of your day on gaming, discover your purpose and soul’s calling and work on fulfilling it.
Significant Life Transition
You are going through a major and significant life change and as a result, you are having a very hard time accepting it. This could be a divorce, job loss, or disease/illness.
Know that we live in a very intelligent universe. We go through challenges so that we can learn lessons and grow stronger.
Ask: “What is the universe trying to teach me?” “How may I be like my creator and serve in the midst of this change?”
Mental Health Issues
You may have been diagnosed with and are struggling with a mental health issue.
Examine your thought patterns and beliefs and ask: are they serving you to become your higher self and live a life in alignment with and led by your soul?
Seek a like-minded community and therapist’s help if you are unable to get better on your own.
Grief
You have lost a loved one recently that you were very attached to. You are having a hard time continuing to live your life and find joy again.
We are all here on earth for a short time. We are in the world but not of the world. The memories of your loved one will always live in your heart. They will always be part of your life.
Express gratitude that you were blessed with this person’s company in your life by your creator. Time will help you heal and find joy again.
Holding Grudges
You are holding grudges and are not able to forgive people who have wronged or harmed you in the past.
Learn to be compassionate, which is who you are by nature, and forgive people. When you don’t you only harm yourself.
You release toxins in your body, shave years off your life and block abundance from coming into your life.
Worry
You worry and are always fearful, anxious and you tend to contemplate “what if…” about everything that can go wrong.
Life happens for you and so stop worrying and trust that everything happens for your good.
Happiness linked to future results
You tell yourself I will be happy someday when I have….
Choose to be happy now. Happiness is not a destination it is a way you can choose to live your life. Be grateful for everything that you currently have in your life.
Perfectionist
You put a lot of pressure on yourself because you want everything about your life to be perfect or at least to appear perfect.
There is no room for growth if you are perfect and always do your best. Learn to serve others with imperfection so that they can be inspired to do the same.
Afraid to fail
You are afraid to fail and constantly think thoughts about how devastating it would be if you failed and how would others judge you.
There is no such thing as failure. Each challenge produces feedback and as a result, we can learn from and better ourselves and our lives.
Low self esteem
You have low self-esteem, worth and confidence. Your worth is determined by what others think and say about you.
Know that the fact that you are here and breathing you are worthy and enough. It is not an accident that you are here. You are here to serve a purpose.
Use your energy to discover your purpose and serve others with the unique gifts that you have been blessed with.
In Debt
You constantly worry about money and have lots of unpaid consumer debt.
Create a plan to pay the debt off. Learn new skills and increase your income to get rid of the debt sooner.
Reducing unnecessary expenses will also be beneficial.
Hate your job
You hate getting up every Monday because you know you have to go back to work.
Figure out what you are passionate about, what kinds of work gives you joy, and what makes you happy and create a plan to make that your full-time income from this type of work.
Scarcity mindset
You are constantly focusing on lack and feel like there is never enough.
You attract what you focus on and so start focusing on abundant thoughts. We live in an abundant world and the sooner you can believe and accept this the sooner you can attract it into your life.
Overscheduled
You have overly committed yourself to different activities and are over-scheduled with not a moment to yourself.
Create some time for your sanity and to avoid burnout. Spend some time in silence by yourself and think and connect to your creator every day.
Unhealthy
You are not drinking enough water, eating unhealthy food, and you are not getting enough exercise or sleep.
Hydrate your body so your organs can function optimally. Eat food that nourishes your body for vitality. Make sure you are getting enough exercise and sleeping enough hours daily.
Your soul is housed in your body. The healthier you keep your body the better it is for your soul to fulfill its purpose while here on this earth.
In Conclusion, I hope you are clear that if you feel unhappy then your very first step should be to ask yourself why is that you are feeling that way.
Your beliefs create your reality. Examine your beliefs, thoughts, perspectives, and stories that you are telling yourself.
Start changing your beliefs, thoughts, perspectives, stories, words, and feelings and state that you will take action to start affecting how you feel immediately.
List all the things you have to be grateful for. Reach out and serve someone and make them feel happy. Practice forgiveness and let go of any ill feelings towards yourself and others.
Discover the principles to live a happy life next!