How Self-doubt And Fear Keeps You Stuck
How Self-doubt And Fear Keeps You Stuck
All of us, at some point, have wondered what life would look like if we were living the very best life that we desire and always dreamed of. Unfortunately, most people do not live their very best lives because of fears and self-doubts.
Let’s explore what exactly fear and self-doubt do to people, where it came from and what we can do about it.
Fears and self-doubt are the biggest obstacles that keep people stuck and settling for a life of mediocrity instead of living their best life while here on earth.
They paralyze people and prevent them from living the healthy, authentic, harmonious, meaningful, purposeful, abundant and impactful life that they desire and are here to live.
Specifically, they prevent people from dreaming big, experiencing life to the fullest, saying yes to opportunities to grow, starting purpose-driven businesses and serving others in ways that only they can with their unique gifts given to them by their creator.
What Are Fears And Self-doubts?
Fear protects us from the unknown, unsafe, new or uncomfortable situations. It is also an unpleasant emotion we feel in anticipation or awareness of something that seems dangerous.
Fears come in many forms like self-doubt, procrastination, perfectionism, resistance, insecurity and a most common fear of failure
Self-doubt specifically is a lack of belief and confidence in our abilities, decisions and actions. It is caused by fear and stops us from taking action towards something with an unknown outcome.
It is associated with anxiety, depression, procrastination or lack of motivation, emotional instability, low self-esteem, low self-confidence, difficulty making decisions, and feeling that one has little control over one’s life.
Common Causes Of Fear And Self-doubt
Childhood And Upbringing
What we hear, see, experience, model and internalize as a child shapes our personalities and impacts who we become as adults.
It is inevitable that you would experience fears and self-doubt if you were raised by parents or other guardians who were not awakened and constantly said statements like “you are to be seen not heard, you are not going to amount to much, you are just like so and so and they did not amount to much”.
They also did not accept you for who you are, compared you to your siblings and told you that you were not good enough.
You will also experience fears and self-doubt if you went to a school that labelled you and judged students’ success in life based on the grades they received and did not value each child’s learning style and natural genius in subjects that they were good in that are not considered valued by the school.
Exposure to all this negative messaging can lead to a life full of fears, self-doubt and an internalized habit of not believing and trusting oneself and questioning self-worth.
Past Experiences And Mistakes
Past mistakes like having certain addictions, bad habits, and unpleasant experiences like abusive situations, shame, abandonment, and betrayal can shake our beliefs and can have a huge impact on how we react to life situations and whether or not we trust ourselves and take calculated risks required to live a successful life.
Comparing Ourselves To Others
It is very easy for us to feel like we are not enough, not value what we have and constantly compete, compare ourselves to others, and envy others’ lives especially today in the world of social media.
We constantly believe that we can’t do it the way someone else does it. We gauge our success and failure by the norm which is set by others.
Attachment To A Particular Outcome
Fear of failing is one of the biggest reasons we get paralyzed and close ourselves off to all other possibilities.
The joy of the endeavour becomes masked with fear if you are not open to failure.
New Challenges
The fear of the unknown is normal as we have no experience with the challenge and do not know how to handle it.
Fear can arise out of unexpected and unwelcome circumstances like a frightening diagnosis, a financial setback, a relationship ending, etc.
How To Overcome Self-doubt And Fear?
Know Who You Are
Despite what you heard as a child always remember that you are a spiritual being having a temporary human experience.
You are an infinite creative force with unlimited possibilities. You are abundance, joy, love, peace, compassion, and wellbeing by nature.
You create your reality and experiences and there is nothing you cannot be, do, and have.
You developed limiting beliefs about your self-worth and how much money you are capable of earning. These beliefs sabotage you from your true potential of abundance and infinite possibilities. Abundance is your birthright.
You choose your personality traits and beliefs when you were a child and now that you know as a conscious being, you can choose to stop believing in these sabotaging beliefs from running your life.
Your programming has led you to form beliefs that then guide your thoughts which then guide your feelings which then guide your actions which then guide your habits which then lead to results and your destiny. It is hard to be aware of the above-mentioned because this process takes place in your subconscious mind.
You have created the results that you currently have in your life by your thoughts and beliefs. You experience life as who you are. You get what you think about. Your inner life determines your results in your outer life.
The good news is that now that you are aware of who you truly are, a limitless formless soul with a body you can now be empowered to take 100% responsibility for your life and live an authentically powered life guided by your soul and let go of old ways of thinking.
If you are committed and willing then there is nothing that will be impossible for you to attain.
You can no longer live your life as a victim, blaming, complaining and justifying why you cannot achieve what you want in life. You can change the programming.
When you listen to the call of your soul you move towards growth, self-love, spirituality, greater fulfillment and living in alignment with your higher self. If you do not listen your emotional and physical health both suffer.
Rediscover your original nature which is sincerity, generosity, service, kindness, compassion, peace, joy, and reverence for all living things. Alignment is awareness in action.
Catch and stop the negative habitual thoughts that do not serve you and are not for your and other’s greater good.
You can now choose to live your life consciously and be fully present in every moment of your day. Remove judgement and resistance from what is happening.
When you blame, justify, and explain, you negate your capabilities.
Take the time every day to contemplate, think and meditate. What you focus upon expands. Your soul can only open to guidance if you learn to sit in silence alone. Align your thinking to your creator. Heath, success and happiness will flow into your life.
Align with your passion, purpose and soul’s calling. Invest in your growth, serve others by starting a purpose-driven business that you love.
Your emotions and feelings serve as indicators of whether you are aligned with the source in any given moment or not.
It is important to be aware that whenever you feel love, joy, peace, and abundance, you are more likely aligned with your creator. However, when you feel anger, jealousy, fear, and doubts, you are misaligned.
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway
Fear is a very common emotion when you are changing, growing and transforming beyond your comfort zone. Its main purpose is to keep you safe and comfortable.
In our history as human beings, real threats were much more prevalent and the fear response in our brain helped us survive and kept us alive.
Today, this fear response in the brain wants to protect you from uncertainty. It realizes that the new and unfamiliar situations pose the biggest threats, so it will create a sensation like anxiety, doubts, and worry to dissuade you from doing things with an unknown outcome.
Fear wants you to stay the same because it is familiar and safe and so it will sabotage you from participating in things that can change your life for the better.
You need to anticipate the resistance you feel whenever you approach the edge of your comfort zone in pursuit of your growth.
It can be paralyzing you to seize an epic opportunity that could transform your business and impact.
Without assigning judgement to yourself acknowledge that fear is present.
Then thank it for trying to keep you safe. It detects threats to your comfort and safety.
Assess the situation and if there is no real threat to your body just to your old habits and beliefs then you know it is not justified and overreacting.
You will have to leave behind old habits and ways of thinking and learn new beliefs and take big, bold actions towards the life of your dreams.
Acknowledge Past Experiences And Mistakes That Served You
Always remember all the past experiences that served you and happened to teach you lessons. Life always happens for you, not to you.
Identify what lessons you have learnt from your past mistakes and how you can help someone else so they do not have to go through these same challenges.
Take Action
Constantly overthinking the what-ifs and about your fears and doubts without taking action magnifies them.
Set a small goal and wins and start taking tiny actions out of your comfort zone before you have a chance to talk yourself out of it.
Find situations related to your fear and doubts that are mildly uncomfortable and do them.
Know and embrace failure as feedback.
Remember all the successes you have experienced so far by taking consistent action and used them to boost your confidence.
See other’s success as proof of concept and acknowledgement that you can achieve the same results too.
Seek And Connect To Like-Minded People
Invest in a coach and community of like-minded people who can help you accomplish your dreams and goals. You are worthy enough. You can borrow their courage. Together we can accomplish sooo much more and change and impact this world for good.
In conclusion, imagine what life would be like if you could overcome all your fears and self-doubts.
What new opportunities would open up to you?
Challenge yourself so that you can face your fears and doubts and live your life to reach all your desired outcomes.
Click the button below if you are ready to move beyond your fears, self-doubts, discover your purpose and start a business that you love so that you can live a meaningful life of your dreams.
