Does Attachment Cause Suffering?
Does Attachment Cause Suffering?
We live in a society that measures your success based on how many material possessions you own and how many friends and followers you have on social media. It is no wonder that you get so attached to the people and all the material things that you have collected over the years.
You are led to believe that your social status is dependent upon these things. So, is attachment good or does it cause suffering?
Attachment can cause suffering when it leads to unhealthy, and obsessive behavior towards a material thing, or a person with the desire to own it or have full control over it forever and never lose it.
You may be wondering, what are some other reasons that attachment can also lead to suffering? Let’s discuss that next.
7 Reasons why Attachment Can Lead To Suffering
Once you gain awareness of these other reasons why attachment can lead to suffering, you will be able to begin your detachment journey and a path to a more conscious life. Here are some other reasons that attachment can lead to suffering.
Leads To Expectations
When you are attached to somebody or something you will expect it to work or behave according to what you believe is the right way for it to do so.
If your expectations do not get met you feel disappointed and suffer. You will make up your own story and assumptions about why it did not go your way and begin to take it personally, feel hurt, wronged, and suffer.
Creates Dependency
Attachment creates dependency. When your happiness and comfort are dependent on others, specific outcomes, or material things that you own you will feel less peaceful and free.
You begin to overthink and obsess over a person or over things that you do not want to ever lose. You believe you cannot live without your things or person and that is what will lead to your suffering.
Leads To The Inability To Let Go
You will be less able to let go and give up things and people because of your attachment to them. Some of these things and people may not be good for you to possess or continue to associate with.
They may pressure you to do things that are not for your greatest good like habits and addictions that can eventually cause health issues and suffering.
Makes You Less Open To Change
Change is inevitable while you are here on earth and it will happen whether you like it or not. The sooner you can learn to accept this fact the better it is for you and the less you will have to suffer.
You are here on earth school to grow and change and become a better version of yourself so you can serve others in a bigger and better way.
You came to this earth alone and will leave alone. You are here temporarily and no one and none of your possessions will come with you when you leave.
Makes You More Controlling
Your attachment to specific outcomes, material things, and people will cause you to be more manipulative and controlling so that you can hold on to and keep them in your life forever.
Always remember you are the only person you can control. You cannot control outer situations, things, or other people. Your belief can cause you to suffer and waste a lot of your time, attention, and energy.
Leads To Constrained Life Vision
Attachment can constrain your life’s vision and make you unable to see and be open to the infinite possibilities that the universe has to offer you. The Universe and your creator have much bigger and better plans for you. Learn to dance between planning, doing, and surrendering.
Makes You Think Attachment Is Love
You may think you need to be attached to someone to love them however that is not true. You can only really love someone unconditionally by being detached and not trying to hold on to them because of your fear of losing them.
When you are so attached to somebody you tend to feel exactly what they are feeling and therefore cannot heal and help them.
If you are detached from the situation and emotions that the person is going through then you can help them awaken, raise their energy, heal, and learn to see a different perspective. Learn to love people in your life without attachment.
In conclusion, you now know that attachment can cause suffering when it leads to unhealthy, and obsessive behavior towards a material thing, or a person with the desire to own it or have full control over it forever and never lose it.
You also learned some other reasons why attachment leads to suffering as it leads to expectations, dependency, inability to let go, makes you less open to change, makes you more controlling, leads to constrained vision, and makes you think attachment equals love.
I hope you found these reasons helpful and are all set to begin your more conscious detached journey.
Good Luck!